This is one of the most requested posts but it’s one I keep putting off because I couldn’t figure out how to structure it. I like to share things that have a system that can be replicated because I feel that’s most helpful, so I’ll do my best. Fellow travel lovers, how do you plan your family travel?
How We Plan Family Travel
Step 0: Know Thyself
What kind of travel do you enjoy? What kind of travel do you want to do more of? Let your style and desires be a guiding factor for all your vacation planning. For example, what we know about our travel style is:
- We don’t like to repeat destinations often with the limited travel time we have available to us currently. There are so many places we want to see!
- We prefer active vacations, having things to do and see over resting and relaxing.
- We prefer to mix of being able to eat food in our condo/room and going out to recommended restaurants.
- We prefer more remote destinations to crowds and busy cities.
At the beginning of each year, David and I do our State of the Family presentation, which includes an in-depth review of our finances as well as a walk through planning session of the coming year. What does each month bring? What’s already on the calendar?
Step 1: Who is going?
We are fortunate to travel as the four of us and also travel with our extended family. Both mine and David’s sides of the family like to get a trip, or at the very least a family gathering, on the calendar each year. These are trips that obviously involve more people, lending itself to be better for certain destinations and lodging, while a weekend away with just David lends itself to other options, like hotel rooms. How many people? Ages? Any limitations for activities or date rangers that need to be considered?
Another thing I’ve given attention to in planning is ages of the kids for certain experiences. I’m really glad we did the Polar Express Experience and Disney World (and Disney cruise) when the kids were young enough to get wrapped up the magic of it all. Would those still be fun at 12 and 9? For sure! But I really appreciated getting to see those things through their toddler and little kid eyes.
Step 2: What’s the timeframe?
Extended family travel usually has a more narrow date range, as there are more schedules to work around. Usually these trips get planned and booked first and we work our family travel with the four of us around that. Time of year helps us narrow in on the type of destination we’d like to visit. We like to avoid crowds (not always possible), but because of that we try to book off season if schedule allows. For example, we are planning to go to the beach in October this year, which is my favorite time to visit for less crowds and more ideal temperatures for outdoor activities.
We also like to book at least 6 months in advance, usually more is possible. Some places, like Lone Mountain Ranch, require more like a year in advance due to availability. We like planning ahead because more options are available, it’s less stressful to plan, and it gives us time to look forward to it and get excited.
Step 3: Reference our inspiration list.
This is not a formal document, but perhaps it should be. Still, we all have some ideas that float around of places we’d like to try. Under Canvas glamping was on mine for a long time before we planned it for this past September. Blackberry Farm, Primland Resort, the Redwood Forest, and Glacier National Park are some US destinations I haven’t been to yet but are on my wish list. Banff ranks high up, too, and we haven’t even touched Europe as a family yet.
I find inspiration from hearing about friends’ travels and on social media. Searching destinations on IG or Tiktik can give you a detailed and unfiltered look at what the destination will look like. I google destinations and attach “blog” or “review” at the end of it to find firsthand accounts of experiences. And when we are at unique destinations, I chat with fellow travelers about their favorite destinations and add the best to my list.
Step 4: Is there something for everyone/a good fit for the group?
With multigenerational travel I like to consider each person. Are there comfortable beds and a place for downtime? Are there activities for all ages? Is there a place to keep snacks or have some meals that don’t require restaurants (depending on ages)? Can the youngest keep up with the activity plan? You get the idea. I also consider: what is the vibe? Super fancy obviously isn’t the best fit for kids.
Also, what is the lodging like for the destinations we are considering. For bigger group travel, is there a place we can all relax, talk, and play games together? Is there a kitchen so we can make some of our meals? Rentals tend to be a better fit for us for larger family travel and condos are a great fit for our family of four travel. We can do hotel rooms when we travel as a family of four, but if it’s longer than a night or two, I know it will begin to negatively affect everyone’s sleep, which isn’t good for anyone involved. Just David and me? I love looking at hotel options!
Step 5: Research costs and specifics.
How do we get there? Where do we stay? What to we eat? What will we do? I research these topics and get ballpark prices for it all. I search destinations on social media to see first hand experiences and recommendations. I google and read blog posts. I ask you on IG. I take notes of restaurants, activities, special things to do or see in the area, etc.
Step 6: Present, book, and start a google doc.
Oh the fun phase! Gather the decision makers and talk through it all. Does it feel like a good fit for everyone? In the budget? Something we’re excited about? If so, we don’t waste time and move forward with booking it.
We look into any discounts of packages, check our credit card point options (I still feel like such a credit card point newbie, but I understand the basics), and then get in on the calendar. We email all involved parties the itinerary then begin a google document of restaurants, activities, and other tips and pointers for the trip to add to as it approaches.
And that wraps it up! I asked David to read this and see if I was missing anything and the tidbit he added was to think outside the box. It’s easy to get pulled into the ease and convenience of all inclusive super resorts. While those can provide ease and security and can certainly have their own perks for the relaxation-seeking traveler, if you’re seeking something a little different, take your desire (for example, the beach) and see if you can spice it up a bit- maybe you want to try camping or RVing at the beach, or go in the off season when it lends itself to more moderate temperatures and outdoor activities, or maybe find a beach close to a historic town or site and mix up the activities a bit. These are all things we consider as we plan our travel and seek new experiences to share as a family. Happy traveling!
Jaime says
This is great! Thanks for sharing your tips and tricks! I can’t wait to see the trips you will be going on this year! Do your girls have any desire to go back to Disney World? My 9 year old son wants to go back so bad, and we are going to take him for his 10th birthday this year, but man, I’d rather spend all that money on a new experience!
Brittany Dixon says
Aw but if he wants to go so badly, I totally get wanting to repeat; it’s so fun to see their excitement! My girls would go back to Disney but don’t actively request it. Universal (Harry Potter) land on the other hand… they beg!
Grateful Kae says
Great topic! My parents often join us for our trips, too. I first tend to look at windows of time we CAN travel (which is fairly limited right now, around school and sports schedules with middle/high schoolers…) and then figure out seasonally which places we’d like to go that make sense for those timeframes. I also try to balance the cost if I can- after one “bigger” trip with more expensive flights/activities, then maybe another trip that year will be either a road trip, or a little shorter, etc. I also attempt to create some variety from trip to trip. Like one year we did NYC, then next we did the Southwest U.S National Parks, then we did New England… then an Ireland/Rome trip, then Costa Rica… etc. I like to have contrasting experiences, I guess! We do not generally repeat destinations too much except my boys love repeating trips to Panama City Beach, Florida (which is a place I even went as a child). We don’t go there every year, but we have been there quite a few times. I’m getting a little stressed because my oldest is a freshman in high school, and I feel like we only have three years left to really travel with him! (I know that’s not necessarily true… my coworker left today for a vacation with her 2 kids who are both in college.) But it *feels* like time is sort of running out! So many places to go, such little time. 🙂
Brittany Dixon says
Your trip diversity sounds incredible! And I visited Panama City Beach annually growing up, too- so many happy memories in that place. 🙂
And I know what you mean about time flying by; my 12 year has started asking all the questions about “when she’s in college” and I’m like nooooo we can’t be thinking about that yet can we?!
Heidi says
Great post! I love all of your travel ideas. We want to try Zion with our boys and I found your posts on that very helpful. I must admit, I get a bit envious of people planning trips with two children. We have four young boys and it’s so much harder to find places that are not insanely expensive and can fit that many people. We’ve defaulted to condos in Hawaii with multiple bedrooms a lot (we are west coast so Hawaii is easy direct flight) but I want to branch out now that the boys are all in elementary school. You provide great travel inspiration!
Laura says
We did something for the first time last year, and went on a trip to Costa Rica with a tour group! I was honestly very hesitant about being with a tour group, but it was really great once we arrived. It was so nice to only book flights and the trip and everything else was booked for us. We could enjoy the view or sleep on the van rides from city to city, my son made friends with other kids in our group (including a girl from Australia, which was neat!), and having a guide who spoke the local language, could tell us about the area, coordinate all our activities, etc. allowed my husband and I to just kick back and enjoy the experience. Some of the afternoons and meals are “free time” so we still had plenty of flexibility to do something with just our family, and there were lots of choices and flexibility on the activities that we were interested to try. I highly recommend it! We did one of the “Family” trips with G Adventures https://www.gadventures.com/travel-styles/family/